Friday, December 14, 2007

Just another afternoon in the shrink's office.

The other day, my therapist asked me the most bizarre question after majorly misunderstanding something I'd said. It was the result of me talking too fast and underestimating her knowledge of circa 2000 pop culture.

I was talking about a former friend from my college days. She and I were in Women's Studies courses together and active in the feminist community on campus. We both ended up in the Bay Area after graduation where she started dating a lesbian separatist. Her girlfriend was pretty hard core. Basically no movies, books, music, etc by men. No male friends, etc. My friend was torn between sympathizing with her girlfriend's politics while feeling restricted by how small her world had become as the result of the rules governing their every decision.

This is what I said:

"She would basically sneak over to my place to watch things like the SNL movie The Ladies Man. As feminists, we both recognized that the character is sexist, but we could still watch it because at the end of the day it's relatively harmless."

To which my therapist replied, "So she would sneak over to your apartment so you could watch S&M porn together?!".

I can only imagine what my therapist was thinking when she thought I'd blurted out quite casually:

"She would basically sneak over to my place to watch things like the S&M movie, The Ladies Man. As feminists, we both recognized that the character is sexist, but we could still watch it because at the end of the day it's relatively harmless."

Anyone that knows me well (including my therapist) knows that myself (and my former friend) would never characterize porn as "harmless," especially SM porn. For my therapist to have heard me blurt that out after 2 years of hearing about my vanilla existence made the misunderstanding all the more hilarious to me.

5 comments:

Lisa said...

Lol. Good times. Go S&M!

coryq said...

I didn't even know there was a sepratist movement.

Smitty said...

There was a somewhat active sepratist movement in the 70s. I've heard of one commune farm place out East. Otherwise, my friend was 1 of 4 known sepratists in Oakland! Not sure what the minimum number of participants is needed to qualify as a movement, but I think it is more than 4!

coryq said...

Less of a movement, more of a twitching.

Well, with only 4 in the group it would be easy to maintain a mailing list or organize rallies I would think...

chinesetwine said...

nice way to look at the bright side of having few people for your cause.